Second Part of 101 ways of Happy Life

31. Tell to your couple that you are very lucky to have a nice couple like him or her, and you are very proud of him or her.

32. return the things that you borrowed from other people

33. Give compliment to someone

34. Wash the dishes even it is not your duty or your turn

35. Give the food to homeless drifter

36. Forget the old revenge

37. Make a list of kindness that you do to others everyday and ask your self, " what is the kind things that I do to other people today?"

38. Tell your dreams to someone who you trust

39. Give a cake or snack and drink to postman who deliver your mail or package

40. Do not make gossip or search other's people shame or disgrace

41. Write your experience and beautiful things that you meet everyday

42. Give you shoulders to lay on

43. Find the good things or kindness inside people who you know

44. Send gratitude card to old teachers

45. Clean your room when you feel bored

46. Visit your old school and give small presents for your teacher and the janitor there

47. Give your money to people who need it

48. Join in the rescue team for helping victims of disaster

49. Forgive people who hurt you

50. Give job advertisement to people who need the job or jobless

Continue again in the the third part..

101 Ways of Happy Life

There are many ways that lead you through happy life. It depends on you, if you want to change your mind set as a happy person, you will get happiness and not worry about this life, It's up to you, friends..

These followings are the ways that are very simple that you can do in daily life that I recommend to you to go there...

1. Smile
2. Say “ Thank You”
3. Say “ Sorry” if you do mistakes
4. Say “ Please help me or “ if you need help
5. Give warm hug for somebody who need it
6. Give a time for reading
7. Give surprisingly kiss to someone who you love
8. Lend you favorite CD or books to your friends
9. Give present to people that you love
10. Hold your desire to give criticism to someone
11. Send unexpected letter with full attention to your old friend
12. Remove the envy and jealous feeling when you see other people get success
13. Laugh together with your family and friends
14. Cry if you cannot hold the sad feeling, Release it
15. Say “ I Love You” to your lover
16. Buy magazine or book which it is the favorite of your father and give to him
17. Ask your nephew and niece to play together with you in Garden
18. Massage your mother's stiff when she feel tired
19. Give the best smile to your friend who feels sad
20. Sometimes give special food to your pet
21. Gather together with your family in living room and spend time to share your experience or story that happen to you today
22. Tell a funny story to your colleagues
23. Take the rubbish on the street that you see and throw it into dust bin
24. Give second hand clothes to people who really need it
25. Help blind people to across the street
26. Ask your lover or couple to lie on the grass at night and see the stars on the sky
27. Spend your holidays together with your couple
28. Ask your couple to climb mountain together and see the beautiful view
29. Lie on the bed and listen your favorite song when you feel exhausted
30. Listen carefully when your friend share his or her problem, don't interrupt it and give advice, “Be a good listener”

I will continue again.......

II. Forgiving

The Second Part..

Thirdly, I tried to remember my sweet memories that I ever spent with my colleagues and try to recall it in my mind, their kindness that they gave to me. Finally I realized that they were not bad people, Maybe they just committed error as human.
Fourthly, by time running, there are many experiences and events that happened to me made me forget the painful feeling and be mature.

Bad thinking, pain, hatred and revenge can not create kindness and benefits for me and other people. Good energy just be focused on the bad things. Therefore, life becomes limited and surrounded in discomfited and regretful circle. On contrary, good energy should be used for positive things and produce optimal result for our activities, relationship with others and improvements for our futures.

After I had done all the process of “Healing” gradually, I could release the problem and suffering experience. I can say openly “ I have already Forgave them”, “I have no burden, forced and pretended feeling in my head.” I obtain incredible result, “ My heart is calm.” I can see my strength and accept my weaknesses. My relation with other people is fulfilled with happiness and joy. I also can do the best for my self in my activities, work and daily life. Suspicious and fear feeling be hurt by others getting disappear. The good result are the bright moment for me.

If you ever feel the same experience like me in forgiving other or apologizing to someone, you can try open your heart little by little to accept or give the forgiveness to someone. It is not easy like to turn over the palm of your hand, but at least you have already tried it. Maybe by attempting my “Healing “ prescriptions, it can be good for you. The most essential, you have strong willingness to accept apology and give forgiveness to people that you make hurt or make you feel it. After you have willingness, make Realization to do it. I believe you can do it. Have a nice effort because asking apology is a brave act and forgiving someone is an act that prove you are person that pure heart and it can create beauty inside you. You decide the life. Not the Life control you and you're a real person who firm you life!

Let's change the way you think about forgiveness and learn how to use it as your advantage. By hanging on hurt feeling and negative thoughts and emotions, you are only harming yourself and attracting even more negative energy. Forgiveness will cleanse you and set you free. It is incredible powerful process, which will immediately shift you from a place of pain and hatred to a higher powerful kindness and love. You decide the life. Not the Life control you and you're a real person who firm you life! Choose happiness and welcome to the Freedom of life!

Forgiving

The First Part..

The Word “Sorry” often we said and heard. The simple things that we can say, “ I'm Sorry” or simple things that have no correlation with our feeling, we easily apologize or to forgive someone. On the contrary, it is difficult to accept the forgiveness if it makes our heart hurt. We feel difficult to forget it and accept sorry from the person that makes you feel offended. Even we often say, “ I forgive you”, or “OK, It doesn't matter”. In fact, in our heart we do not accept the forgiveness. Do you really forgive the person in your heart? The answer maybe NOT. “ I don't want to forgive him.” Thus, it makes our heart get pain and if it is not recovered, it will be a revenge. Even it is simply one word “Sorry”, the word will be valuable. On the other side, it can be a complicated situation if we are not ready to accept it.

As a matter of fact, forgiving someone is not easy. There are many obstacles such as our egoism and high prestige to apologize someone and accept the forgiveness. Even sometimes we keep the revenge until many years and forgive someone is very difficult to do. It happens because we cannot forgive the person sincerely. We often say, “ My heart is still hurt. I never forgive him because his words hurt me. “ I can't forget her action that insulted me.” or we say “ why I have to apologize to him, he is an annoying person.” There are many reasons ans statements that we say to defend ourselves for not forgiving and apologizing to someone. However, we feel hurt, oppressed by painful feeling. As a result, bad feeling will haunt our mind and heart.

I had ever experienced the suffered things. The painful experience may may need time to be healed. At the time, I could not forgive my two colleagues' words that hurt my feeling. Fortunately, now I sincerely forgive them even though it needs a long process.

My first reaction when the bad thing happened to me, I reflected upon my self, looked for my mistakes that I had ever done to the colleagues so they could say bad words about me. I asked my self, “have ever I hurt them?” I tended to blame myself for that event. I told the event to my family and close friends. They empowered me and give support to me. They said, “ it is not your fault, but sometimes life doesn't run well. Sometimes event happen out of your control, but it's life. You must accept it and try to open your heart for forgiving them.”

However, at the time my egoism and hatred feeling made me difficult to forgive them. I close my heart for forgiveness. But it affected me, I cannot relax, calm and hatred feeling made me offended and cried. My self esteem and potency were getting decreased. Moreover, I cannot trust other people again, and I often feel suspicious. I could not have close relationship with my people around me. In my heart I asked to my self if someone could hurt me like my bad experience. The trust feeling to others was very little.

The protected behavior that I did could not give good result. I did not get satisfaction by not forgiving them. I could not get calm and happy life and it brought bad impact to other people or my relationship, and it also affected to my work. I could not obtain maximal result from my job. Finally, I reached to the point that I realized it; I had desire to recover my self, I must open My heart again to forgive them.

Firstly, I tried to think that “They are ordinary people like me that can make mistake.” I also often hurt others by my words and actions. I realized the other people want to forgive me. In addition, God also wants to accept my apology even I make mistake and sin everyday. The positive thinking finally make my mind stay calm down. Gradually I opened my heart, even there was a little hatred and disappointed feeling in my heart.

Secondly, I prayed to God do he help me accepting the fact that life sometimes does not run accordant to my wish. With the power of prayer, the hatred feeling slowly disappear.

To be continued ...

II. a Special Letter for You

To: My Dearest Child


Hi, how are you today? How about your activities and work? Does it run well? Why today I look you feel sad and cry? It makes me also feel very sad. You are my child that I take care since your mommy were pregnant and had you as her child, I create you from beginning, maintain you from the time and until you grow up now. Everyday I see your growth and development, although you do not see and forget me. However, I never forget you because you are my lovely child. Look at me and get close to me. I always be here for you.

I see you often feel disappointed, desperate and has no spirit to do your activities and your job. Why does it happen, darling? There is much spirit that you can obtain from other people that I give to them to help you. You often does not realize that the people is me who always accompany and supports you. Dear, I never leave you alone, but you are busy with your mind and think nobody cares of you. Calm your heart and you will find me in all things that you do or events that happen to you and I always exist in your happiness and sadness that you experience. I always be in those things and and people that you meet every day and your work that you have. I always inside the matters that you have met to make you better, strong, and mature to behave, my child.

I also often see you are very angry and jealous with other people's success. Why do you want the other people's achievement? It is not yours, Dear. I have already prepared the best life design for you. Why do you never realize it? Maybe you are very tied up to see and concentrate with incredible work that I make to other people. My child, convince yourself on your ability, talent and gift that I dedicate for you. My design for you is the greatest for you. Thus, it is not your plan that will happen because there is a perfect and superb plan that has already prepared for you. It is special from me.

Ask my help. I will give it to you if you share your little time for yourself and shape your heart. The small or big things that have happened to your life are the answers that I give to you. I never leave you alone, even it just a few minutes, So don't ever give up, my child. Don't want to be a loser and let bad situation control your life. Win the trouble through the power that I offer to you and it has already inside you.

My Lovely child,
Don't feel hurt if you are criticized, blamed and ignored by other people. Don't hate yourself because you think you are not perfect and invaluable when you feel all of people do not support you. Feel hurt and discomfited will make you down. You can not sleep well and furthermore, you do not feel comfort and frustrated. Remove it from you heart and mind. Tranquil you heart and think clearly so that you can control yourself when you are be disappointed by other people or when Someone leave, counterfeit, complained, hurt, mock you. these bad things or challenges that you have in this life make you become stronger. You will see and find that only ME who understand and know everything about you and only ME who can accept you whatever you do. To be a wise, mature and wise person, you must leave away the envious, angered and hatred feeling because those atrocious things can make your heart become impure and as a result you always think suspiciously to other people.

The most crucial, don't ever leave and forget me. My Child, Remember my messages for you. I will give time for you when you need me, even sudden condition. I never limit time for you, I will be with you. You just call me through your prayer, I will answer as fast as I can. I will answer you quickly. I will open my hand widely to be hold by you and I will hug you to give comfort feeling when you are afraid and hopeless. I will prepare my shoulders so you can lay on me and release your downhearted feeling, you also can cry with me.

I will do all best things for you because I really care of you. I always accompany you without feeling tired. I always beside you because you are my extraordinary and dearest child.


Best Regard,
I am the person who always love you.

GOD in Heaven

I. a Special Letter for You

Sometimes life makes you sad and cry without reason. It happens because you feel burden of your life is very hard, and you sometimes you see only there is a dead end. Everything that you do is always wrong. Sometimes you think your decision that you take is right, but the real fact you find that your decision is wrong. We feel that we have already done the best for our job and activities. On the other hand, many people criticize your work and blame you, even they accuse you do not work well.

Crying is good to make you feel released and it can reduce stress or depressed feeling. Talking with someone who you can trust, close or your best friend is also way to help you. The people can understand what you feel and think. They can decrease dejected feeling in your heart. Moreover, they can find suggestion or solution for your problem.

The most important you must have spirit to keep survive , struggle and revive this life. Don't give up like sun that rises in the east every morning. Sun never tired to shine the light. However, there are clouds and fog cover the she shinning. Simile you a sun which shine everyday, even though not all people can see the beautiful light that you have. There is an email from God that given through me for you. Maybe it make you feel calm and comfort. Read the letter if you are already to open your heart.

Smile

SMILE, it is just a small thing but smile give us many advantages. For example, If you go to a shop or department store and you meet with sales clerk you will hope he or she will smile at you. In other moments you go to a restaurant or cafe, you also expect nice service and friendly smile from waiters or waitresses. By smiling, the situation becomes more comfortable and and enjoyable. Even though smile is not expensive, it is a precious thing.

I recalled my mind when I taught as a teacher in my previous job. I remembered the headmaster who always smiled when he met and greeted teacher and staffs. He never felt tired to smile and his smile was honest, not be done for finding respect or keeping good image as a headmaster. His smile came from his heart. His smile made me do my work excitedly although I had many jobs and assignments to be done at that time.

Smile does not cost a thing, but it gives us many benefits. Smile just takes a little time, but it creates a good impression and good effect from smile can ever lasting forever.
A smile can give us peace for someone who is confused. It also give happiness, encourage strong desire and power in business. In addition, it gives energy when we work. Smile also gives tokens to friendship. In addition, it is a natural cure when we have many problems. Smile give happiness when we feel sad and transfer spirit when we work or do our activities.

On the other side, smile cannot be bought, forced or stolen due to smile is priceless or invaluable if it is not dedicated to other people. Some people are very ungenerous to give their smile to others. They just show bittersweet face or sometimes they look like a full of burden. Give your smile to them because smile is very useful for some people who have already tired to give smile.
Smile is a tool for us to make good change and as a for all of difficulty and problem that we face in this life. By smiling you give love and hope to other people. You win people's hearts and help them to be calm and strong to face the life challenge.

II. Why are the other people great

We could discuss about great things that we have seen in our lives. In addition, we can argue why the great people can do splendid actions that we have ever imagined before. However, it useless to find the cause and the fact why people can be a great without the factual implication to our daily lives. Let's we reflect to ourselves and answer question “ How about us?” Certainly, we should make action plan, and do the real activity and performance and find creative thought to make superb work. It easy to said but it is difficult to be done? Why?

First, we think that great people can do the amazing things because we think they have star qualities that inherited since they were born. Second, we assume that they have special talents Thus, it makes us feel that we do not have big potency and like them. We often say “The man is great because he has a talent, while I don't have special skills or talents” or we say, “I can't do it!, “It is impossible for me to do it!”

The desperate statements are contradictory to my story above. In the story, the disabled man began the life change from minus start because of his physical defect. Look, We are normal people who can begin our change ans explore our potency.

I bring you to flash back the story again. “ I asked the man, “was it difficult to start painting by using your mouth?” He answered me, “Yes, it was very difficult, I had to do it until one month just for holding the brush well with my mouth. Sometimes I felt desperate and cried but I remembered I had to do it because I must stand on my feet to fulfill my daily need and my life. The painting needs a long process, but I try not to give up with my disability. I could make the first painting for about six month. Right now I am happy I can produce many paintings!”

The man wants to change and improve himself. Why do we want to be a loser by doing anything? The key of success is desire and intention to change. The most important is strong mentality to do the improvement. We should be optimistic. I focus to the word “Optimist” because sometimes we feel the life is unfair. Really? I say Yes. Why can I say that? I take example for you to make it clearly.

Maria is in crowded bus and she is very tired after finishing her job in her office. She is looking at to the street, there is a young girl who drives her car. Maria says in her heart, “Ah, if I were rich, I didn't have to get on this crowded bus.” Maria wiped her face with her handkerchief.
While in the car, the young girl, Keesha whom maria saw on the bus said, “ After I arrive at my home, I will be alone again, just see my maids because my father and mother always busy and go home at night. If I has parents who ere not very busy and could give me more attention, I would be very happy.”

From the two examples above, both of the girls feel their lives are not unfair and we do to. We also think our lives are not appropriate to our wishes. Some people want to be rich, some people want to have beautiful or handsome face and perfect body, happy family. Some people want to get couple like she or he wishes. We always wish our dreams will come true. It is good but sometimes we cannot avoid the events or matters that distract our wishes and the out planning condition that will happen. Moreover, we cannot change other people to follow our wishes or ask them to do our commands. The most crucial is our response to solve the problems. It is better than say, “I'm not lucky” and we always complain and keep asking “Why I cannot achieve my dream?” The statements make us to be trapped in limiting ourselves in incapability and will deviate our competency, skills and talents that we have. “ I cannot do it, I cannot handle the job, Impossible” The habit to say the bold words above will give bad effect to us in conducting our work and the way to see this life.

Self limiting statements also affects us and make us failed. The statements should be removed and not make it into your habit. We must stop the habit of giving up before trying something or effort. It will destroy our mind and mentality thoroughly.

We can replace our incompetency by receiving it with joy or pride. Furthermore, we see events that happened or our problems positively. It is better to think the solution for our problems and find unique ideas and develop our hidden potency and talents that are not explored to be useful things and new work for our self improvement and other people.. The successful person is someone who develop his competency and skills and to be a pecialist in field that he can master. It makes people will find you and need your skills or you product that you can sell or offer to others.

The most essential is you change from today and improve yourself and conduct significant action by do your own way. In other words, do something according to your belief, knowledge, way and your skill or talents that you have. Focus yourself on your skills and power inside you, don't focus in your weaknesses.

Why are the other people great?

I remembered when I still studied in my university. At the time, My campus held bazaar and exhibition that showed work of art created by disable people. I was impressed when I saw a man who did not have hands and feet but there were beautiful paintings beside him. I was confused and thought what kind of organ that he used to paint. Finally, I found that he used his mouth to paint. Furthermore, I asked him to to paint something because I want to see directly how he painted using his mouth. The man dipped brush to oil paint without difficulty and he started to paint on canvas. I saw from his face that he enjoyed his activity. He did not feel annoyed although he must have used his mouth and without hands' help. There was no assistant who help him to finish his painting.

What happened next ....?
The result of painting was very amazing. That was a beautiful painting! His painting was not lower than the painting that made by artists. He proved that he could paint well like a normal people. He was not desperate even though he just had his mouth that used for painting. He did not depend on other people. He could earn money by selling his painting. He did not want the people feel sorry for his personal defect and they give money to help him. He wanted people bought his paintings because of good quality of his paintings. He could show to us that he had extraordinary talent and hard effort to achieve the good result for his life.

He never stopped for doing outstanding action that attract our admiration even though he was a disable man. On contrary, we are given normal body from God but sometimes we do nothing and just complain about everything in our lives. There are many exciting and particular matters, work and events that have happened around us that we know from books, magazines, Internet, TV and radio or something gorgeous that we have experienced. In fact, We have seen incredible things in the world and we are placed as a viewer. We just see and do nothing. Have you ever realized it?

To be continued...

“ There is no one help me from my trouble or my problem”

Sometimes we trapped in the sentence “ There is no one help me”,“ Impossible”, “There is no way out”, “Nobody cares about me”. If we feel desperate, you think your problems are more difficult and a heavy burden. In addition, you think God and this life are unfair. Even though you feel there is no solution to your problem, you must believe you'll get help from God or someone. They will lead you to way out. Just give your life in God's hand and you have to be optimists. When you feel relax, you can get ideas and solution for your problem. It often happens to me, but I want to tell a story for you. I hope this story will help you to realize God never leave you in unsolved problem in your life.

This is my story......just for you....

I got this valuable experience when I was graduated from my university. Due to my graduation and I had got a bachelor degree, I must have gone to my hometown. I went to my home town because I got job there. My mother pick me up at my dormitory in Jakarta. My home town is in East Kalimantan. My mother and I packed up my things comprises: my clothes, my books, equipments,shoes, dolls, and etc. I made small farewell party for my friends at dormitory. I said goodbye to head of dormitory and my friends. I felt sad at the time because there were many beautiful moment and experiences that I got and spent with my friends there. I brought many things , especially books. I had many books because I am a book worm. There were 3 packages of books, and heavy. I set up all the things to my big bags and my mother bring cardboard boxes for the things that cannot be loaded in bags.

Arriving at airport, I and my mom should check in the luggage. The maximum weight was 20 kg each person, so both of us can have 40 kg for the maximum weight of luggage. After the officer had measured the luggage, he told us there was a problem with our luggage; it was over load. As a result, we must have paid for the luggage Rp. 180.000. In the fact, I didn't bring enough money in my wallet. I just had Rp.80.000. Then, I ask my mom if she brought money. My mom answered, “ I bring money just for our transport fee for going to our home. If I give the money, we cannot pay the bus ticket, dear." Confusingly, I decided to draw my money by ATM. I looked for ATM around airport. I got the ATM but unfortunately ATM for my account was out of order and there was no more ATM that could be use. I could not do anything and I tried to relax and prayed in my heart. I said “ I hope there is a way out from my problem, God please help me."

I went to my mom and said to her, “ ATM is out of order, Mom, I cannot draw my money.” My mom said “ Maybe we try to talk to officer about our problem.” We decided to report about condition to the officer who handled the baggage affair. We told that we would pay after we arrived at airport in my home town and gave the money to officer there, but the officer refused our request. He said “ Sorry Madam, it cannot be done. If you cannot pay, you cannot bring this this luggage right now. Maybe later we will send this luggage if you transfer money to our account, but I needs a week to process the delivery items." Suddenly, there was a man who said “Can I help you, how much money do you need to pay for it?” The man was about 40's and he used glasses. My mom answered the question, “The lack of money for luggage that we should pay is Rp.100.000." The man said, “OK, I'll pay for it." He gave Rp.100.000,- to me. I took the money and add with my money Rp.80.000.

Finally, the fee for the luggage successfully paid. I said thank you to the man and I asked the man what the number of his account was. I said, “Please tell me the number of your account, I will transfer money to your account to return your money." The man only smiled and said,” Don't think about it, I just want to help and I don't want you return it. We as human should help each other, right?” However, I still want to return the money and I asked again the number of his account. Even though, I asked him about his account number, he didn't want to answer my question.

Finally I found out that the man was also the passenger who has the same flight with us. After the airplane was landing and arrived at airport, I looked for the man to ask again the number of account. He said to me, “ Let's ignore about it,. Don't worry, I help you sincerely. It's just small thing that I can do for you and your mom. I became shy because of his words. Then I and my Mom express our gratitude by giving gift to him and introduce our names each other.

I say thanks you to God. he always answer your prayer today, tomorrow and any time you ask to him. God loves you and still grant your hope through another people's help, and through universe but you do not know the way. He creates the beautiful answer and way for your life. God's plan is the best. We are not alone in this life. Someone or many people will help and support even you do not realize it.

Maybe the experience like the story above has happened to you. Have you ever realized It? The small things that other people has done to you are the answer from your hope or prayer. Believe and be optimist with your life. Happiness is the right of each person in this world. Don't worry, do the best and do forget you must have hope for your incredible life...you will get the answer and unbelievable result!!

Say “Thank You” for Your Life

Sometimes your life does not run well. You feel that you have many unsolved problems than other people. You are wrong!! Many people also have many complicated problems than you! Each person has own problem and they should face it. Moreover, they should solve their problems. Sometimes you feel unsatisfied with the the things (your job/career, couple, body, physical appearance, family, relationship,etc) that you get. Sometimes you complain that the things above has weaknesses. You rather pursue your life become perfect and you want to acquire more than you have right now. You feel the life is unfair and the other people's lives are better than you.


Why does it happen?

It happens because you seldom to give thanks and appreciate to what you obtain in your life! Give thanks for small things and blessings that you receive everyday. The simple examples that you can do everyday:

1.When you get up in the morning, you give thanks to God because you are given one life and start the day.
2. Breathe the air is one of the life blessings. Say thank you for it.
3. When you have breakfast and you can eat meal or food everyday. It is also blessing for you.
Some people live in poor condition and they cannot eat proper food. It proves that you are lucky than the people.
4. Say Thank You for your Parents, Family, Relatives and Friends that you have and they always support you. Without them you will have no spirit. You must feel happy because they accompany you and give attention even you get bad and complicated problems in this life.
5. When you leave your home for going to school or working. It is Grace for you. All of the things that you obtain are the blessings from God!
6.You have activities and job. You can earn money and get knowledge .You can conduct useful things for other people in your job or your study. Many people do not get a job and become unemployment. Look, You have better life than the people!

The most important, still remember if all people leave you when you are in the worst situation, God is still beside You and help you when nobody cares about you. Some people are not lucky like you. Some of them do not have complete family or orphanage. if you feel sad remember you have kind peoplearound you and love you Dear....

From Today, Say to yourself your life is Beautiful ! You learn to be accustomed to say thank you for the things that you accept even though it just a simple and invaluable things. Make it become your habit. Only the word “ Thank You” you can begin your day happily. You will feel pleased and enjoy with your life. You will have good perspective that your life is gorgeous, interesting and glorious. You aware that your problems are not really difficult. The problems are easy to be solved, they are not a burden. It just a way that make you become more wise and strong to run your life.

Try to think positively. Creative ideas will be got and you can perform good work and obtain good result. The process of giving gratitude to universe will bring you to success in your life. When you say “ Thank You”, you will attract happiness and prosperity. Make the power of gratitude become the way of your life. You say THANK YOU , you will acquire great and unimagined splendid things in your life. Let's try and see the Miracle that will happen to you!!